I’m Coby Baker (she/her), a holistic, trauma-aware sexologist and artist based on Wadawurrung Country, in Ocean Grove. With a Master of Sexology and studies in psychology, I bring a holistic approach to sex therapy, creating a safe, private, and confidential space where you can explore your thoughts, feelings, and desires without judgment.Whether in-person sexology sessions in Ocean Grove, Torquay or online across Australia, I’m here to support your journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment—addressing your emotional, mental, and physical well-being in every session.
WHAT IS A SEXOLOGIST?
A sexologist is a professional who specialises in the study of human sexuality. Sexologists are trained to provide education, guidance, and support to individuals, couples, and groups in various aspects of sexual health and well-being.Sexologists can assist with issues such as sexual dysfunction, sexual orientation and identity, communication in relationships, sexual pleasure, intimacy, sexual health concerns, and navigating sexual challenges or changes throughout the lifespan.Sexologists offer a non-judgmental and confidential space for clients to explore their concerns, goals, and desires, and work collaboratively to develop strategies for improving sexual satisfaction and overall quality of life.
FAQs
What can I expect from a sexology session?
In a sexology session, you can expect a safe, confidential space to discuss any aspect of your sexuality. Sessions are non-judgmental and led by a trained sexologist who will listen to your concerns, provide information, guidance, and support as you explore your sexual health and well-being. You can guide the session on what topics you would like to discuss, and we will work together collaboratively.What kind of topics can I discuss in a sexology session?
You can discuss a wide range of topics related to sexuality, including but not limited to sexual health, pleasure, desire, intimacy, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationships, sexual changes over the lifespan, menopause, sex and sexuality after childbirth and serious illness, sexual dysfunction, communication, porn use, sexual shame and sexual education.Is sexology only for people with sexual problems or concerns?
No, sexology is for anyone who wants to explore and improve their understanding of sexuality, enhance sexual well-being, and address any concerns or questions they may have about their sexual health or relationships.How long does a sexology session last, and how many sessions will I need?
Session length and frequency can vary depending on your needs and preferences. Typically, sessions last around 50-60 minutes, and the number of sessions required will depend on the complexity of the issues being addressed and your goals for therapy.Do you offer online sexology sessions?
Yes, I offer online sexology sessions you can book an online session through the 'Bookings' pageDo you offer in-person sexology sessions?
Yes, I offer in-person sexology sessions in Ocean Grove, Torquay and Hawthorn. You can book an online session through the 'Bookings' pageHow do I book a sexology session?
You can book a sexology session by booking directly using the 'booking' page, or contacting me directly through the website contact form. I will then provide you with information on scheduling, fees, and any other necessary details.Is sexology covered by health insurance or Medicare?
No, sexology sessions are not covered by health insurance or Medicare in Australia.Is sexology suitable for couples?
Yes, sexology can be beneficial couples looking to improve their sexual relationships, address communication issues, explore new aspects of intimacy, or navigate challenges together. Couples sessions are available and tailored to meet the unique needs of each partnership.Do you take NDIS clients?
Yes, I do take NDIS self-managed or plan-managed clients. Please use the contact form before booking so I can gather all the information I need from you.If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact me through email or the contact form.
WORKSHOPS AND SEX EDUCATION
I specialise in workshops that cover a wide array of topics, including kink/BDSM exploration, pleasure enhancement techniques, navigating the world of sex toys, and comprehensive sex education.My workshops provide a safe and inclusive space for individuals, couples and groups to learn, grow, and explore their desires in a supportive environment. Whether you're curious about delving into the depths of BDSM dynamics, have a hens party looking for something unique, or simply looking to enhance your sexual pleasure, my workshops offer enjoyable guidance and practical techniques to help you embark on a journey of self-discovery and sexual fulfillment.
For more information about my workshops and price lists, please use the form on my contact me page
I acknowledge the traditional custodians of the lands on which I work: the Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung people. I pay respects to First Nations elders past, and present, acknowledging sovereignty has never been ceded.
About Me
As a devoted artist and sexual advocate, my approach is both holistic and compassionate, blending creativity with care.I provide a safe space for you to explore your desires, embrace your identity, and cultivate a fulfilling sex life. I believe in a whole-person approach to addressing and transforming sexual challenges. Whether we're exploring kink and BDSM or addressing issues like erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, painful sex, or mismatched libidos in couples, my approach ensures your unique journey is met with sensitivity, understanding, and respect for your overall well-being.
How I work
I offer sexology sessions in-person in Ocean Grove, Torquay and Hawthorn and online. No referrals are required.In our sessions, you can expect a safe, confidential space where you are free to explore any and all aspects of your sexuality.I approach sexology with a non-judgmental, empathetic, and inclusive perspective, recognising the unique intersections of identity, culture, and personal experiences that shape each individual's sexual journey.I am here to listen, support, and provide guidance without bias or prejudice. Together, we will work collaboratively to address your concerns, empower you to make informed decisions, and foster a deeper understanding and appreciation of your sexual self.I'm a proud member of the Society of Australian Sexologists and I attend regular supervision to ensure that my practice is always ethical and informed.
CONCERNS I WORK WITH
•Pleasure-Centered Practices
•Kink/BDSM Exploration
•Polyamory Support
•Sexual Communication
•Pleasure & Desire Concerns
•LGBTIQA+ Inclusivity
•Disability Awareness and Inclusivity
•Sex Work Positivity
•Erectile Function Issues (ED)
•Rapid Ejaculation (PE)
•Painful Sex
•Mismatched Libido/Desire in Couples
•Pornography
•Sexual Anxiety and Shame
•Sex After Childbirth
•Menopause and Hormonal Changes
•Sexuality and Aging
•Orgasm Concerns
•Sexuality After Divorce
EDUCATION
Master of Sexology, Curtin UniversityGraduate Diploma of Psychological Science, Deakin UniversityBachelor of Photography (Fine art), Photography Studies College
PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT
Fundamentals of Kink - Affirmative CouchPolyamorous Clients in Therapy - Affirmative CouchFrom Gender Dysphoria to Gender Euphoria - Affirmative CouchChange That Lasts - The Couples InstituteMental Health First Aid - MHFA AustraliaSexology In Practice Symposium- Society of Australian Sexologists (SA)NDIS Worker Orientation Module
ALL ARE WELCOME
My practice is designed to be accessible, respectful, and affirming for everyone, regardless of ability, gender identity, expression, sex worker or neurodivergent status.
Trans, gender-diverse, POC, queer, disabled, kinky, polyamorous, sex worker and neurodivergent communities are welcome and safe with me.
I acknowledge the traditional custodians of the lands on which I work: the Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung people. I pay respects to First Nations elders past, and present, acknowledging sovereignty has never been ceded.
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I offer 60-minute sexology sessions designed to support your sexual wellbeing, relationships, and personal growth.Each session includes 50 minutes of dedicated sexology and 10 minutes for admin tasks, such as session recap or scheduling follow-ups.I offer sessions both online and in person, creating a safe, inclusive space to explore and address your concerns.
In-person appointments are available in Hawthorn Ocean Grove, and Torquay.No matter where or how we connect, my approach is trauma-aware, inclusive, and centred around your unique needs. I look forward to supporting you on your journey.
Thank you
If you have any questions or need further guidance, please feel free to reach out. Thank you for being a part of this journey with me.
I acknowledge the traditional custodians of the lands on which I work: the Wurundjeri and Boon Wurrung people. I pay respects to First Nations elders past, and present, acknowledging sovereignty has never been ceded.
KINK AND BDSM
I have a keen interest in the diverse and enriching world of kink and BDSM. I firmly believe that engaging in consensual kink practices can enhance sex lives. By understanding and incorporating various kink elements, individuals and couples can explore their desires, boundaries, and fantasies in a safe and consensual manner.Together, we will delve into your interests, concerns, and fantasies, with a strong emphasis on communication, consent, and safety. Whether you're curious about integrating elements of kink into your sex life or seeking guidance on navigating the dynamics of BDSM relationships, I am here to provide support every step of the way.My aim is to empower you to authentically and responsibly embrace your sexuality.
During these sessions I can:•Facilitate open and non-judgemental discussions about desires, boundaries, and fantasies related to kink and BDSM.
•Provide education and information about various aspects of kink and BDSM practices, including safety protocols, communication techniques, and consent.
•Offer guidance on exploring and experimenting with different kinks and BDSM dynamics in a safe and consensual manner.
•Help you develop negotiation and communication skills for navigating BDSM relationships and scenes.
•Assist in addressing any concerns or challenges that may arise during the exploration of kink and BDSM, offering support and guidance throughout the process.
•Collaborate with you to create personalised strategies and plans for incorporating kink and BDSM into your sexual experiences and relationships.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM A SESSION WITH ME
Accessibility Information:- Booking Information: To make a booking, you can follow the links on my booking page, email me at admin@cobybaker.com or use the contact form on my website.- First Session Details: During our initial session, we'll discuss what brings you in and any specific concerns you may have. I'll also ask some questions about your sexual history and any medical conditions relevant to our work together. Additionally, we'll discuss your preferences regarding language and terminology related to sexuality, ensuring your comfort and respect. If there is anything you are uncomfortable with please let me know and I will adjust accordingly.- Online sessions:
When you book an online session with me, I'll send you a Zoom link. On the day of our appointment, you can join the waiting room on Zoom as early as you want. Once our scheduled time begins, I'll let you into the session.- In-person sessions:
My sessions are run out of three locations, Hawthorn, Ocean Grove and Torquay.
Hawthorn sessions are located at SWell Centre at 2 Minona St, Hawthorn.
Ocean Grove sessions are run out of Durga Ma, at 3/41 Smithton Grove, Ocean Grove.
Torquay sessions are run out of Torquay Health Clinic, at 1/30 Gilbert Street, Torquay.- Accessibility Hawthorn:
The space has wheelchair access, however, due to tree roots under the concrete, the footpath is cracked and is no longer accessible for power chairs and some wheelchairs. Access is possible through the main building but there is a small lip on the waiting room and session room door, this is currently being looked into.
There are disabled toilets in the main building. When you first arrive you can enter the reception area and ask to be taken to Pleasure Centred Sexology's waiting room.- Accessibility Ocean Grove:
The Ocean Grove clinic is located within Durga Ma at 3/41 Smithton Grove, Ocean Grove, and is fully wheelchair accessible. To enter, please use the back entrance of Durga Ma, which can be accessed by following the pathway alongside the building and Adco Grove.
This location provides step-free access, making it suitable for clients requiring mobility support.
When you enter the Ocean Grove clinic, you will find yourself in a small waiting room with chairs facing the bush. This space is private, and there is no reception team. You may wait on the chairs, and I will come to collect you for your session.
This clinic also has a gender-neutral toilet and is a private space with soundproofing, ensuring a confidential and supportive environment.- Accessibility Torquay:
The Torquay clinic is located at 30 Gilbert Street, Torquay. Please note that access to the clinic requires climbing 16 stairs. Upon entering through the door at 30 Gilbert Street, you will immediately encounter the staircase leading up to the clinic waiting room.
Unfortunately, this location is not wheelchair accessible. If you require an accessible option, please consider booking at our Ocean Grove clinic. There is no reception team at this location. Upon arrival, you may wait on the chairs in the kitchen area, and I will collect you for your session.
This clinic has a gender-neutral toilet and is a private space with soundproofing, ensuring a confidential and supportive environment.
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